Sex-Positive Information • Community • Straight/Gay/Kink • New Mexico and the Southwest

    Xcentricities Corsets- Saucy in the Southwest

    Filed under: Julian Wolf — Tags: , , , , , , , , , — Julian @ 6:07 am December 15, 2010

    Since 1998 Xcentricities by Ynhared have been helping people “get waisted” by providing quality steel boned corsets to fans across the country. This family owned and operated business is based out of Albuquerque’s own South Valley. They’ve vended in the southwest at venues such as New Mexico’s biggest Kink/Leather/Fetish convention Rio Grande Leather, the Southwest Fetish Ball in Arizona and our own science fiction convention, Bubonicon.

    Nationally, they’re known at multi-media events Norwescon in Seattle and Convergence in Minnesota, the world’s biggest fetish event Folsom Street Fair in San Francisco, the east coast’s Fetish Fair Fleamarket and San Jose California’s Pantheacon. You can find them anytime of year at their website.

    Xcentricities

    So, what’s so special about Xcentricities? Daniel sat down with us to share some details. “We are primarily corset specialists but have made some skirts and full ensembles for formal/fashion and Red Carpet appearances. We are the only corset makers currently offering off the rack corsetry for men, designed in the tradition of European military underpinnings common through the 1880s – deeply masculine accentuating the male v-shape and ‘Parade Rest” body position. (Additionally) we are making a new style The Fallen – mens dramatic trenchcoat flowing lines. Coming up The Dark Rider, in ballistic nylon, made to flow like a trench coat or snap down into chaps. Hot, versatile, action figure wear for men!”

    Just in time for the holidays, Ynhared and Daniel are offering an amazing deal to Saucy Southwest readers and a few of their favorite organizations. “We’re offering 2 for 1 certificates till the end of the month, offer ends 1/1/2011 at the stroke of the New Year. A $50 payment gets a $100 certificate redeemable in January. $250 gets you a $500 certificate” and so on. The gift certificates will be honored any time, just purchase the certificates before the new year. Call Daniel at 505-463-9586 to take advantage of the offer. Visa, MC, AmEx, Discover, mailed payments, and PayPal are accepted.

    So, this is the opportunity you’ve been waiting for. Custom fashion is a fantastic gift for just about anyone. Saucy? Oh, yeah. Supporting local business in the southwest is a great way show you care about your community. Wearing a corset is a great way to show your best assets and show you care about yourself. Confidence is incredibly sexy, and a steel boned corset will (literally) help you stand tall.

    Xcentricities Corsets- Saucy in the Southwest
    • Carnal Conundrums

    Asexuality & Your Beautiful Genitals

    Filed under: Carnal Conundrums, Julian Wolf — Tags: , , , , , , — Julian @ 8:45 pm December 5, 2010
    Hello!
    I am a female, late 20s, basically healthy, sexually active for over a decade. This is my situation: I cannot become fully aroused when I’m with another person.
    I have no moral qualms about sex, I think it’s a wonderful thing. All the physical mechanisms seem to be working just fine, and I can get turned on when I’m alone and achieve orgasm thru masturbation with no problems. But when I’m with a partner there’s a discrepancy. I just cannot get fully turned on, and because of that, I have not entirely enjoyed any sexual encounter I’ve ever had.
    The nature of the relationship doesn’t seem to make a difference. The situation has been the same whether I’m deeply committed to my partner or whether we’re more casual. I used to think it was something that would resolve itself as I became more experienced, but, as I’ve gotten older & more emotionally mature, there’s been virtually no change in this situation. I feel as if I’m missing out on a part of my life by not having a satisfying sex life. This is not an occasional occurrence: I’ve had 2 orgasms outside of masturbation, and that’s out of… Well, out of many, many sexual encounters. Furthermore, it’s begun to effect my relationships in general. Sex was a big factor in the breakup of my engagement 2 years ago.
    Is this a problem with anxiety? Could it be medical or chemical, hormonal perhaps? Or am I just making too big a deal out of it?

    Thanks,
    Lily

    Dear Lily,
    It could be any of the factors you listed. Physiological reasons such as chemical and/or hormone imbalances and a variety of other medical reasons can affect how we interact, particularly in stressful and/or sexual situations. I highly recommend seeing your preferred medical professional to rule out anything physiological, and barring that, check in with a psychiatrist or the like to look into any psychological issues that might be there.
    There is also a chance that there isn’t anything wrong. Some people aren‘t sexual, or just aren‘t sexual with other people. Asexual people are defined as “people who do not experience sexual attraction.” Many people who identify as asexual have meaningful relationships- sometimes romantic in nature- with others. Here is a link on the topic: The Asexual Visibility and Education Network.

    I hope that you find your answer soon, it’s so much easier to have a good time when you’re not worried about your well being.

    Enjoy yourself,
    Julian

    Hey Julian,

    Back in college I had a boyfriend that refused to go down on me because he said I “looked weird down there.” I’ve been a bit shy about it ever sense. My gynecologist says that everything is normal, I just have “pronounced labia.” Is this a big deal? Anytime I’ve seen porn the girls aren’t what I’d call pronounced. Should I keep the lights off, get surgery or what?

    Thanks,
    AW

    Dear AW,

    First of all, I hope you didn’t stay with that boyfriend very long. While everyone is welcome to have preferences, that was a pretty unsympathetic way of expressing his. I am sorry that you had to deal with that.

    Secondly, there is nothing wrong with you, at all. It was a smart move to check with your gynecologist- I’m glad that you did! I could go on and on about how we’re each unique, our genitals are a beautiful thing and lots of main stream porn seems to want to teach us otherwise, but the staff at Self Serve in Nob Hill just put out a video on why you (not just you AW) don’t need labiaplasty. (Labiaplsty is what they what they call the elective cosmetic surgery you don’t need.) The video is a bit shorter than ten minutes, and I highly recommend it.
    (Just keep in mind that some females experience pain and/or discomfort due to abnormally pronounced labia. In these cases, labiaplsty is not so much a cosmetic surgery as it is quality of life necessity.)

    AW, I hope this answers your question and helps you gain some confidence. If having the lights off is your thing, then keep them off, but if you like the lights on- or you enjoy cunnilingus for that matter, find a partner who can enjoy you for exactly who you are.

    Enjoy yourself,
    Julian


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